Don't ask if the child is a "real" sibling. Instead, think of how confusing it must be for a five year old child to grasp what is real and what is not real.
Don't tell an adopted child how lucky they are. Instead, smile and realize the life that is being celebrated through adoption.
Don't segregate adoption. Meaning, don't say to someone, "Well, that couple has their own children as well as their adopted children." Instead, realize they are a family unit. They are one.
Don't ask where the child came from. Instead, embrace that they are here.
Don't refer to a birth mother as a child's "real mother." Just don't.
Don't refer to a child as being "thrown away" or "abandoned." Instead, realize that there was a key moment when a child was born and their life was spared. Realize that most children, though they are what we considered to be "abandoned," are placed in well traveled locations such as hospitals or local markets or in front of an orphanage. These actions are taken in order to make sure that the child will be discovered and cared for - these are intentional, life-saving, unselfish acts.
And don't tell a perceptive five year old little girl that a dog is Chinese just like she is because chances are that five year old perceptive little girl will retort with great pride that she is indeed English, NOT Chinese!
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