Thursday, April 28, 2011

Sisters?

Once upon a time, I worked at Gap Kids. I often opted to work on the Baby Gap side of the store. I loved helping first time parents with their special purchases or grandparents who were purchasing the perfect outfit for their latest addition to the family. I heard story after story and loved every minute of it. One day, I helped a lady who looked pregnant and she was buying a lot of pink, itty-bitty baby clothing. As she was checking out, I glanced up at her nonchalantly and asked, "Oh, when are you due?" The poor girl's eyes said it all before she even spoke. Had I paid closer attention, I would have noticed that there, right in front of her many pink clothes, was a stroller with a, her, tiny, tiny little baby girl.
Another time, I was visiting a friend and we were having dinner with several families who had adopted from China. We had only been home with MK for a short time and I knew very little about the Waiting Child program. I met a family with two adorable little girls, one was a NSN adoption, the other, a SN adoption. The mother began telling me of the child's needs and stated the care that she would need. Without a thought, I asked, "Did you know she was going to require such attention before you accepted her referral?" I did not mean any harm.
Weekly, even in China, people have approached me and asked, "Are they sisters?" The people who choose to ask do not mean harm. They also do not pay attention to what is in front of them. They are curious. If they paid attention to the scene in front of them before asking, they would take note of my very intuitive four year old, the one who does not miss a beat. You know, the one who speaks endlessly about her new baby sister. How confusing it must be to hear perfect strangers asking your mother if your new baby sister you have been praying and wishing for is really your sister.
Biologically speaking, no, they are not sisters. They were both born of different birth families and they were born in two different areas of China.
Familial speaking, yes, they are sisters. They were born of the same dream, the same parents, the same brothers. They were found and united with their forever family. They were wanted. They share the same history - they were both born to birth mothers who chose life for them, who cared enough for them to place them in a well traveled area knowing that they would be found, they both lived with foster families who gave them the best care possible until they were in our arms, they both came to us, their family, through adoption, and more importantly, through love.
When you see a family out and about with children who are of another race, please take the time to pay attention to the scene. Often, the parents do not mind the question in a private setting - I would take the time to explain to the grocer or the clerk or the attendant to tell them the miracle of adoption, the miracle of family through adoption, but not with my four year old, my eight year old, and my eleven year old in tow. Instead, hold your questions and make a kind statement about the beauty of their family.

Monday, April 25, 2011

Easter 2011

Early Easter morning.....very early Easter morning :) Two parents and four children who are most often later to church than earlier, awoke, dressed, viewed the Easter bunny goodies that were brought, ate a quick bite and jumped into the car. Over the hills and through the woods we traveled.....and we ended up in SC with cousins, uncles, aunts and grandparents! What a wonderful day we all had together!
The two "Kates"....Mary-Kate and Mason-Kate are fast becoming best buddies when they are together. We are so happy for cousins!
Maddox doing her usual, exploring. This was her first trip to Gran and Pop's house. She took it all in stride, as expected, and bonded with cousin Kemp over a helping of Goldfish. Yum.
Such a sweet, sweet little face.
So happy for these two little guys in my life.
Prayers were said and a grand meal was eaten, complete with Chocolate Delight - a fav.
Gran with all of her 9 grandchildren. Gran and Pop planned such a fun, family filled day complete with church at the church I grew up in, appetizers, dinner, Easter goodies, and an Easter egg hunt for the children.
Aleigh and Pryce scored the prize eggs!
Just a swingin.....Emma, Pryce and Maddox were all full of happiness and laughter.

Our big girl on her new bike. She is quite the rider and loves her new set of wheels!